10 Hacks That Will Quickly Change Your Status From A Miss To A Mrs

So you are in love? What a beautiful yet a scary feeling especially if he has not shown any signs of settling down with you. Being in love whilst dating can be frustrating especially if you have been day dreaming of your his surname becoming you last name. Have you pictured how cute your kids are going to be? Girl you are not alone. The important question is, how do you go from being just another girl to actual marriage material? What are you not doing right now that will make consider spending the rest of his life with you? Are you willing to tweak a few things to create a more meaningful and deeper bond in order to make him want to commit? Before we go any further, this is a two way street. If you’re even thinking of spending your life with him, then I hope he is sweeping you off your feet already or at least trying to do so. Otherwise, this is a waste of time because you can’t influence a man who only sees you as a great lay. He must like you as a person. No shade here ladies. I’m just keeping it real.

So here are 10 ways to ‘help’ him realise that you are the love of his life and minor changes you can make to encourage a lifetime relationship: 1. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF - PHYSICALLY, SPIRITUALLY AND MENTALLY Men are more physical than emotional. So if he is irresistibly attracted to you, you are off to a great start. It’s sounds a bit superficial doesn’t it? Sadly, it’s the truth – you need look great and maintain that sexy body to keep the attraction in an everlasting relationship. You do this by staying active, eat well or at least try as much as you can! Do not compromise on having your ‘you’. Remember you were ‘YOUR NAME’ before you met him. It is critical that you hold onto this person because it is what attracted him to you in the first place. Create time to see your friends and family, and make sure you do things that you enjoy. Avoid being idol. Keep your mind active, pursue your education and career goals unwaveringly. Taking care of yourself also includes fostering your own mental and emotional growth outside of the relationship. If you don’t look and feel your best, your partner will notice. What he wants is that confident, beautiful, and sexy woman that you truly are (should be); don’t neglect yourself hoping that he won’t notice. Make your body, skin, hair and style a priority. 2. CALM YOUR EMOTIONS Ever noticed how men who cheat run to the outside woman after an argument? Well in most cases, it’s because she nags a lot less if at all. The tough times and fights will come both with your partner and in your own personal life. He wants a partner who is understanding and can get through those difficult times during a marriage. Before you start yelling and cursing (hopefully not), take a deep breath and calm your emotions. If you are still fuming, then take a few more deep breaths. Keeping calm and collected will instantly improve your communication and connection. Be honest with yourself and look within. If something is your fault, accept responsibility for it and apologize; doing so will teach your partner to do the same, and draw you closer to him. 3. TRUST HIM IMPLICITLY Like I mentioned before, these tactics only work if he loves you (likes you a lot), and if he does then you ought to trust him. Yes one can relate to some guy(s) having toiled with your heart and you are afraid of falling without the assurance of a safety net at the bottom. Or a father that was never around. It is undoubtedly hard to let go of your insecurities and trust anyone especially when you have been through a lot. However, if you want this relationship to work, and you want him to see a future with you, then when it comes to trust, your actions need to speak louder than words. Keep your promises, and he will likely do the same. If he doesn’t, and abuses your trust in him, then he’s not the man you are meant to be with. Lack of trust can send a man running for the hills so you need to chill out. 4. BE CONFIDENT Now now ladies, we are not talking about you being arrogant. You need to be comfortable in your own skin! Reason? He is going to see your ‘not so cute face’ in the morning, hair all messed up and if you are a wig lover, some plain looking cornrows that make you look like you just left the village of Zamunda. So whether dressed up or down, you need to be confident and love yourself. Your man can smell insecurity from a mile away, and no man wants to be with a woman who constantly doubts and criticizes herself. Why. Because if you don’t like what you see, you ought to do something bout it. So be spontaneous, embrace your body, be happy and express how lucky he is to have you - with humility of course. You are GREAT, and he would be privileged to have you as his wife. You need to believe that for him to see it. 5. BE AFFECTIONATE This might seem like a given but some of us come from family backgrounds where our parents are not affectionate. So this part can be alien to some. The best way to think of it is, do to him as you want him to do to you. We all want to be held, kissed, caressed and praised (appreciated). He will be happy to see that you can keep those romantic gestures, sensual touches, and loving demeanor alive on a daily basis. Hold his hand; don’t be afraid to be affectionate. Tell him how much you love him now and then and just how much he means to you ( without sounding needy though!). Comment on how nice he looks, or how proud you are of him for his promotion at work. He is not a mind reader; even if you are thinking about how much you care for him, how will he know if you don’t say it? We all need reassurance; make sure you provide him with those constant gestures of affection. I am not suggesting you suffocate him with emotions. If it’s not in your nature, this might come as a task and some partners don’t even like it. So make sure you understand his love language. 6. BE GRATEFUL With each year that passes, more women feel that it is their right for the man to sweep them off their feet. Especially whilst dating. This is one of the most frustrating factors for men who are looking for love but keep getting women who want to be treated like high class escorts and get the love and happily ever after too. This part always leaves me perplexed! If you love him genuinely, then you should be appreciative for the little things just as much as the major things, like exchanging of gifts and moments where he is a huge support to you physically and emotionally. It is important that you don’t neglect being appreciative for the small things too because this will tell the kind of wife you’d be when the chips are down. He’s looking for a woman who will recognise, acknowledge and appreciate his kind and loving gestures. Show him how much you appreciate every little thing he does for you, and he will do the same. 7. COOK (LEARN HOW TO) Yes my lovelies. You do not have to be a Chef, just learn the basics. Some men say they don’t mind ordering out for the rest of their lives. Yeah right. To simply put it, eating out all the time is not financially practical especially once children come into the equation. The English proverb that says, ‘the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach’ might not be the only way to win his heart but it also plays a role in winning his affection. So get cooking! 8. BE A LOVER OF SEX Yes ladies. Your man needs to know that you are going to fulfil every desire he has ever imagined, at least get close to it. Now if you are a virgin and keeping yourself for the wedding night, I completely respect that and congratulate you for knowing what you want and standing by your beliefs. However you are not an exception to this rule. The quickest way to push an average man to another woman’s arms is by giving him constant excuses of why you are not in the mood today, tomorrow and before you know it, weeks and months have gone by. Even women get frustrated when they aren’t getting any, so how much more should a healthy man with a good sex appetite wait? If there is an issue for whatever reason, then it’s best you get the help you need before committing to someone. In some African cultures, women are taught how to pleasure their husband. So educate yourself because even in marriage, to keep things exciting, the two of you will always be on a journey of learning how to pleasure each other. 9. BE THE CALM IN HIS STORM Men have a huge responsibility on their shoulders. To be the provider. So for that, he’s going to go through some tough times, and will need a partner who can be his voice of reason. He’s not looking for someone to make him more anxious and stressed out; if he senses that you are the opposite of calm, that’s when he will run. Life is hard as it is. So be calm, wise and the loving force in his difficult times. He will notice that and want you to be a constant in his life. He will start to find it hard to imagine life without you. 10. BE LOYAL If you want him to commit to you, you have to commit to him. Make your relationship a priority; don’t necessarily drop everything else in your life, but show him that you are loyal and committed to this relationship. Marriage material means being loyal, so take this step as your most important action in showing him what you are worth. No more unnecessary communication between you and the ex. No entertaining flirtatious conversations from some hottie. If you can implement some of the above factors and improve on the existing ones, then you are on the way to creating that everlasting bond that will keep you both happy and conquerors.

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