Insensitive "Girl Friend" Tried To Crash Me

I got a message a few weeks ago that really incensed me! A very 'good' friend that I'd lost contact with for over 6 years sent me a message after I changed my profile picture to one of the whole family.

The message read - please watch your weight o. Don't become obese like all those oyinbo (white) people. As if that wasn't enough, she then left a comment on the picture saying Please watch your weight!

Haba, no congratulations - had twin girls 6 months ago, no hello, no long time?

I fumed for sometime then realised I was wasting my energy.

Joy and her hubby

My body is allowed to be obese! It has done wonders and great things! It nurtured 2 high risk pregnancies and 3 wonderful babies in 2 years. It has undergone 6 clomid cycles, 4 IUI cycles and 3 IVF cycles. That is roughly 200 injections to make it behave and carry my babies!

It has been poked, prodded, ogled, eyed and viewed from all angles by all sorts of medical personnel - well since I was 14 and started suffering from endometrioses. In fact, I'm going start charging pay per view!

It has been put through it's paces, assimilated thousands of multi vitamins, bent into all sorts of bedmatic shapes, exercised to within an inch of it's life in the 11 years it took me to conceive!

It's been called useless - by me, treated harshly - crash diets and all the other crap to keep it at a supposed optimum.

I am embracing this new body! Yes, I'm now a size 16 instead of 8/10. I'll get back there. For now, 2 babies need this size 16 body to survive. So cheers to my body and the babies it has nurtured so far!

Joy's little bundles of joy

Fiona: Thank you Joy for sharing this post with us.

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