Understanding Your Partner’s Love Language

BON is always overwhelmed with work, which can be very frustrating for me. He is buried in work most of time (Sigh). He works so hard to maintain being a good breadwinner, an awesome dad to our son and the best hubby a girl could wish for. I always try to show him love and support but sometimes I fall short. I guess I tend to express my emotions in the wrong way and end up getting negative feedback from him. Most of us make the same mistake, trying to show or express love the way we want to be loved. We all have different love languages and it is vital that we identify which areas our partners fall into.

So I thought to myself, how could I convey my feelings to him? We love each other dearly but our ways of expressing that love could not be further apart! Consequently, I decided to carryout a survey on him, sorry BON but I had to.

I love PDA (Public Display of Affection) but my gorgeous BON doesn’t, at all. So when I attempt holding hands and get touchy and all, he feels somewhat awkward and uncomfortable. Frustration and cluelessness led me to the big question which was ‘How can I love you MR (ADAMANT) MAN? Thankfully, with a little research, I found a great forum that led me to carry out a survey and I found the solution to my long worries.

When he is not in ‘work mode’, Mr. BON loves to talk to me about everything and anything. At these moments, he needs my undivided attention. He needs me to watch his boring science fiction, thriller and horror movies with him of which I have no absolute interest. He requires me to deal with the home front end of things, so he doesn't have to deal with any of it after a long, possibly stressful day at work.

P.s This is not my gorgoues BON and that lovely lady smiling is not me.

Compliments go a long way a lot of the times and when I started doing all the things he naturally demanded, his attitude and response towards me changed. My actions were conveyed to him in a manner that he understands love because to him, compromising and fulfilling your role as a wife, that is love.

Despite the fact that we love each other, we are different. For example, I love compliments, am very emotional and therefore touchy and I crave for attention. He knows this about me and so he makes up for it in the private despite the fact that affection is not down his alley. Compromise goes a long way and as a young couple, we are both learning to practice it. Sometimes the smallest investment can reap a lot of fruits, the little things we overlook could just be the answer. So why not do it from time to time?

Study your spouse, find out what makes your husband feel loved and appreciated. Do it from time to time. Try and speak to him in a language he understands, rather than what comes natural to you. Be a part of his world. Surprise him. He will be in absolute awe of you.

You can know more about understanding your husband’s love language by visiting the following link

http://www.5lovelanguages.com

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