8 Attributes Of A Successful Woman
- Fiona Keene
- May 6, 2016
- 3 min read
I recently started attending a women only fellowship group. On my third visit, I sat in silence and observed these set of lovely people that I’d only met a few weeks ago. I looked around the room and was amazed at how pulchritudinous these women looked first thing in the morning. Nothing was out of place. Their outfits screamed ‘class’ and I could not help but admire the time, effort and thought that they had put into dressing and making up. The ladies, who dressed down, still did it with purpose. Whether it was sports wear or a simple shawl, it was classically stylish and admirable.
Now, the ‘bitchy’ woman in me wanted to console her un-alluring self with all kinds of excuses. Such as, I am a mother, a wife and pregnant so I haven’t got time for make up and heels to come for ‘just’ a prayer meeting. Despite the fact that these women were in the same boat as I am, they prioritized and found the time to take care of themselves. In the midst of my thoughts my conscious spoke to me asking, “What can you learn from them?” So I observed and by the end of the session, I took away the following:
What humbled me was how friendly these women are, week after week. Even with their Chanel bags and Rolex watches, these ladies were humble. To be successful, we need to learn how to network. A hard face, however pretty, is unapproachable and therefore can kill your possibilities of meeting key people who might be able to support you.
Their need for growth. Most of these women have more than two businesses or a 9-5 and business on the side. They push, push and push.
They are assertive. Even at a first glance, one can perceive that these women are not walkovers. They know what they want and are not shy about going for it.
These successful, gorgeous women are confident. Their confidence translates in the way they carry themselves, dressing, speech and ability to overcome challenges. They face them head on and pray and work to overcome them.
They are stress tolerant. They fall, cry a little and get back up and keep going.
They are energetic. These madams are constantly on full tank with everything they put their mind to. From their kids, to their spouses, fitness lifestyle and of course their careers. Productivity is high up on their to do list.
They are extremely realistic. If you are based in Nigeria right now, I am sure majority of you are being affected by the ‘dollar’ as many people are referring to it. The economy is terrible and the many are feeling it. Whether you are a businesswoman or an artisan, it is all we are hearing and saying on a daily basis. Petrol and market prices have inflated. Even the lady selling fish in the local market will counter your usual bargaining tactics by responding “Aunty, Na Dollar Cause’ Am”. Back to these gorgeous women, they are feeling the heat too and are finding way around it by being innovative and/ or diversifying their businesses.
They have a hunger for God. The first time I saw these ladies crying out to God, Oh My Goodness! I was deeply humbled and awakened. The whole experience made me realize I was very unserious. With “all” that they had, they groaned in the spirit for more favor, more success and the list went on. They take their success with aggression and leave no stone unturned. Always ask yourself why powerful and successful women have faith e.g., Oprah Winfrey, Melinda Gates and General Motors’ CEO Mary Barra who said “Faith doesn’t always make things easy, but it can make all things possible.”
So as the expression, ‘Don’t Hate. Appreciate’ goes, I told my inner ‘bitchy’ self that was emerging to go to hell, literary. I started making an effort with my appearance. I encouraged my girlfriends to join the fellowship because I needed us to grow together so we can encourage one another in all aspects of our lives. I also stepped up a few gears in my prayer life. In the midst of it all, I am learning how to excel in economic times such as these by getting on with it. How? By finding unique solutions to my situation and having an open mind. At times such as these, a change in career, diversification or gearing up your spiritual life might be the answer to rising on top and overcoming the turbulence.
What attributes have you found effective to your success in different areas of your life? We would love to hear from you.
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